Relationship Failure #2,917
I have been dating Ryan again since the end of January. We had a great time, but I had to end it earlier this month when it became apparent that we had different definitions of living out our faith. I'm sorry to the 99% of you that didn't know I was even seeing him again. I had to figure this one out on my own.
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If you have never watched the 90s classic, Better Off Dead, it is a funny one that may make you laugh instead of cry. One good line from it is, "Buck up, little camper." I use it all the time on myself.
PS You are SO dateable! You're beautiful inside and out. I imagine if you could fathom how much the God who created you loves every piece of you, you would cheer right up.
Love,
Mom
Girlfriend, like someone has said already, you are worth fighting for. You are God's beloved! And though I know it sucks (dealt/dealing with a break-up myself) please don't go down that road of believing the lie that you are unlovable and not worth fighting for. The absolute right guy will fight for you forever and a day. Looking at the guys my friends have married, I believe there is still hope.
Walk around your house and find something shiny (her choice was the front of the dishwasher) and while looking at yourself say "pretty" and then stretch both arms out as far and wide as you can and then walk toward the reflection and say "HUG" as you hug your pretty self (imagine a toddler hugging the dishwasher!)
Yes she does this at least once a day and I hope this is a sign of early positive self esteem and not a symptom of some pathological double personality trouble!
I truly believe that we cannot accept ourselves as lovable until that love comes unconditionally without judgement from within. When we seek approval from others, (parents, friends, and yes even and most often boys) we allow them the power to control our perception of ourselves. We need to take that power back and love ourselves with kindness and gentleness we so freely offer to others.
There isn't much anyone can say to take away the hurt and rejection you are feeling, but it might help to tell yourself what you would tell one of your girlfriends you love if they were in your place right now. Give yourself some of the warm kind Tawny love that pours out of you for those around you. You deserve it more than anyone.
Lots of love coming your way from Modesto,
Shawna, Rick and Madison, and nose nuzzles from Zoe and Roxy too.
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